Isobel Davenport and Rupert Davenport
When You Were MineIsobel Davenport and Rupert Davenport’s relationship turns the expected protection of family guardianship into a sustained instrument of coercion. Rupert, Isobel’s paternal uncle, removes her from Willowbrook Hall after falsely claiming that her brother Peter Davenport has died and that he is therefore her guardian. He then abuses her, attempts to arrange her marriage to Bertram DeLisle, and restricts her freedom. Isobel’s eventual escape and her later account of what happened make their conflict central to the novel’s treatment of family authority, violence, and a woman’s ability to control her own future.
Family Background and the Guardian’s Claim
Rupert is introduced into Isobel’s life first as an obscure family figure. During her childhood, her parents rarely spoke about her father’s younger brother, leaving Isobel to imagine him as an adventurous pirate or highwayman. The reality she encounters is much more brutal. His reputation rests on gambling and questionable business dealings; his wealth appears and disappears without an identifiable source, and his associates are described as equally mysterious and violent. His ruthlessness makes even asking about his livelihood feel dangerous.
That gap between the childhood myth and the adult reality sharpens the betrayal. Rupert is not a stranger who happens to threaten Isobel, but a relative whose authority can be presented as familial duty. After spending two and a half weeks with Elspeth, Isobel is at Willowbrook Hall when Rupert arrives in a rage, complaining that he has been kept waiting and helping himself to the decanters. He tells Isobel that Peter has died in Norfolk and that a magistrate named Worthing has informed him of the death, making Rupert her legal guardian. Isobel is stunned, especially by the supposed death of her brother, and has no independent means of confirming Rupert’s story.
Removal and Confinement
Rupert uses that claimed guardianship to move Isobel abruptly. When she argues that she should remain at Willowbrook Hall, he denounces Elspeth as unstable and threatens that she should be sent to an asylum. Isobel gives in only after securing his promise that Elspeth may stay at Willowbrook for the time being. Rupert allows her little time to pack, summons a carriage, and takes her away before she can make sense of what has happened. Isobel insists that Kitty accompany her as her lady’s maid; Rupert initially refuses, but agrees when Isobel will not leave without her.
The contrast between this hurried removal and the home Isobel remembers makes her dependence on Rupert’s power visible. Gosport Hall, once associated with the warmth and gaiety of her youth, has become cold, shut away, and alien. Its heavy shutters remain closed even in daylight; the rooms feel damp and isolating. The house’s changed atmosphere reflects the difference between a family home and a place in which Isobel lives under Rupert’s control. Fear of his violence also propels her toward escape: the prospect of reaching her brother’s old bedroom gives her a goal, while Kitty’s intervention creates the chance to act.
Violence and the Forced Betrothal
Rupert’s authority is enforced physically. Isobel later tells Dominic Cavendish that the beatings occurred most days, though their severity varied. Some left her so badly hurt that she did not think she would survive; at other times, she says, she did not want to survive. Her injuries included deep bruises and painful cuts, and she knew that Kitty would not be permitted to tend to her afterward. By the time Isobel speaks about this history, Rupert’s violence has become so consequential that recounting it is part of establishing what he did and why she had to escape.
The beatings became less frequent toward the end of her confinement, but the apparent reduction in violence did not mean that Rupert’s control had loosened. Instead, he began preparing Isobel for Bertram DeLisle’s visits and telling her that he had sold her to DeLisle, who would come to inspect her. Rupert’s manservant told the remaining servants that Isobel was betrothed and would soon leave to marry DeLisle. The threat was not merely a private arrangement: it was being circulated as an accomplished fact, though Isobel had refused to sign the betrothal document Rupert and his allies tried to impose on her.
That attempted sale and forced betrothal prompt Kitty to act. On the night of Isobel’s escape, Kitty warns her that she is to be married and taken away in the morning. Isobel understands the danger in the warning because Rupert’s rages have grown increasingly severe, and she fears she may not survive another beating. Kitty has taken a considerable risk to create this opportunity, but is left battered, bound to a chair, and imprisoned in the room behind Isobel as Isobel begins her escape. Their differing positions in that moment show both the cost of resisting Rupert and the loyalty that his regime cannot entirely suppress.
Exposure and Legal Resistance
After Isobel is reunited with Peter and Dominic, her recollections supply details that clarify how Rupert’s power operated. She explains that Rupert invoked Peter’s reported death to remove her from Willowbrook Hall, used the threat against Elspeth to secure her compliance, and kept her uninformed about where she was going. Peter and Dominic connect these details to Gosport Hall and to Rupert’s calculated ability to keep Isobel close to them while she remained hidden from their search.
Isobel’s account also turns her personal experience into evidence. Asked about the violence, she describes its frequency and its effects; asked about the planned marriage, she recalls the talk of DeLisle’s inspection and the servants’ belief that she was already betrothed. Later, when she reviews the written account she had been asked to prepare, she remembers the betrothal document she had refused to sign. The discovery matters because it gives the group a specific object and attempted act to investigate, rather than leaving Rupert’s conduct as a series of unrecorded allegations.
The dispute over marriage brings Rupert’s claimed guardianship into direct conflict with Peter’s assertion of legal authority. When Rupert and DeLisle present the marriage as valid, Peter says that he was Isobel’s legal guardian when it supposedly took place and had never permitted her to marry anyone except Lord Havistock. He further states that papers witnessed by magistrates recorded Isobel’s betrothal to Dominic some three years earlier. Peter does not treat the men’s claim as settled: he says he intends to investigate whether a marriage took place before Isobel goes anywhere. The confrontation thus exposes the difference between Rupert’s attempts to dictate Isobel’s future and the competing documentary and legal claims brought forward against him.
Significance of the Relationship
Rupert’s relationship with Isobel is a progression from family obscurity to asserted guardianship, confinement, physical violence, and attempted marital coercion. Each stage relies on restricting her choices: a false report of Peter’s death isolates her; the threat to Elspeth pressures her to leave Willowbrook Hall; beatings make disobedience dangerous; and the announcement of a betrothal tries to make her future appear decided before she has consented. His power is practical as well as nominal, sustained by control of her movement, access to help, and the story others are told about her status.
Isobel’s resistance develops through acts that restore her agency and make the truth harder to conceal. She insists on bringing Kitty with her, accepts the dangerous opportunity to escape, later recounts the abuse despite the difficulty of speaking about it, and recovers the memory of the document she refused to sign. The relationship’s decisive reversal is therefore not simply that Rupert’s cruelty is condemned by those around her. Isobel’s own testimony and remembered evidence expose the methods by which he tried to make kinship and guardianship serve as instruments of ownership.
